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Where’s the Love Gone?
from:Keeping the love alive in a marriage can be a real challenge over the years. Many a wife or husband has decided at a certain point that the love has died and living in a loveless marriage is unacceptable in their lives. At this point there are two paths to choose between. On one path lies divorce and new beginnings. On the second path lies a renewed relationship and thus new beginnings.
It can be tempting to think in terms of divorce as a cure-all for all the problems in your marriage. You can leave the person causing the heartache and start over. Maybe you can meet someone who will treat you the way you want to be treated. Perhaps you can find true love and live happily ever after. Of course, isn’t that the way you felt about your spouse when you got married?
The point is that you may not have a loveless marriage at all. You probably have a marriage that is showing signs of being a bit battered due to the stress of daily living. It’s not easy living with another person which means marriage is not easy. Anyone who says otherwise has probably not been married. But marriage should not be just drudgery either. There should be plenty of fun that you share too. When all of the fun stops and the marriage becomes just a seeming burden, it can appear to be loveless.
Flickering Passion
When you have been married for a while it is all too easy to begin concentrating on just the problems of daily living. Usually in this day and age both people work and lead separate lives during the day. When you begin to have children a lot of time and attention that was spent on each other is now spent on the children. The days of hand holding dates are over and instead its crying children in restaurants. Or you don’t go out at all because it’s too much trouble.
When you get married, the early feelings of passion felt so good. If you think back, life seemed to hold so much promise and joy and excitement. The physical and emotional connections were strong. Because early love ignites such passion it is often seen as belonging only to the young. That is such a fallacy and fortunately the baby boomer generation has not bought into that theory.
Marriage passion can be kept alive for a lifetime but only if you make an effort to do so. A marriage should not be just about work and responsibility. It should also be about passion and fun and keeping the emotional and physical bonds intact. Many times what seems to be a loveless marriage is really a marriage where the passion flame has been allowed to die down to the briefest flicker.
Roaring Flames
Often when it seems that passion has died in a marriage, the truth is that the passion has been delegated elsewhere. People are passionate about their work or their family, but those same passionate people may be forgetting to share those feelings with their spouses. To keep love alive in a marriage requires that attention be paid to the relationship. You can’t ignore feelings and expect them to stay alive. You have to nurture relationships including the one you have with your spouse.
There are many different ways to turn your flickering passion flame into a roaring fire like you once had. You can begin by doing some of the same things you did as newly weds. For example if you used to get dressed up and go dancing then you should do so again. If you used to spend long evenings drinking gourmet coffee and just talking then it’s time to start visiting.
This is true no matter how long you have been married too. You may not be able to take mountain hikes anymore due to age or physical problems, but you can walk in the local park and have just as much fun. The point is to include fun activities in your marriage and not just chores and responsibilities.
Romance By Any Other Name
What one couple called romantic may not work for another couple. However you define romance though, it needs to be a part of your married life. Keeping romance and physical love strong will keep the passion in your marriage alive. So if you think your marriage is loveless and divorce is inevitable, it’s time to rekindle the flames of passion you once enjoyed. Start having some fun with your spouse once again and you will probably be delighted to learn the love still exists….it had just been ignored.
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